Last weekend I decided to embrace my single status and take myself to the movies on a rare night out. I actually was strangely comfortable with the concept but I’ll be honest, there was that tiny inner voice that was whispering to me “everyone will see you on your own and think your a loser”. Yes sad to say even as a 30 year old woman I still had some cares about what a bunch of strangers would think of me. So I proudly shared my plans with a friend half expecting to be cheered on (I know I know expectations are the root of disappointment) but the response I got was anything but supportive…
My tentative confession was met with “I wouldn’t advertise that if I were you!”
Really are we that superficial that in 2018 single people should miss out on such a mundane thing as catching a movie simply because they don’t have a significant other to go with? What happened to supporting your friends and encouraging them?
Yes I have friends & family but let’s face it they have their own families and partners and I don’t want to be the stray dog that scratches at their door begging for a bone. I’m independent and I’d rather go to the movies on my own then drag someone with me just so I’m not on my own. I also feel the same way about dating, I’m not going to take a random man to the movies that I’m not really interested in just for appearances sake to a bunch of strangers.
Somehow though that integrity is lost on others. When did we become so caught up in appearances that single people should lock themselves indoors until they’ve magically met someone to join them at the movies? And how are you meant to met someone if you are in hiding for fear of being seen on your own?
I sat with the remark all weekend and clearly it got under my skin. Why can’t people go enjoy a movie or a meal on their own? You know what it was totally fine, no one called me a loser, no one even gave me a second glance being solo, I didn’t have to listen to someone talking or asking questions and I didn’t have to share my popcorn. Seems like a win to me! Let’s face it like 80% of the movie goers were teens anyway!
Yes there are benefits to having someone to share those outings with but guess what being single isn’t like being sentenced to solitary confinement. It is what you make of it. So don’t hide away. Get out there and live your life the way you want to. You want to see a movie, go see it! You want to have dinner out, go and eat dinner out! You want to go for a romantic moonlit walk, then go do it! Don’t sit at home and watch life pass you by feeling sorry for yourself that you spent the best years of your life on your own at home.
Fill your own cup, make yourself happy and focus on yourself for once. That way when that special person comes along you know who you are and you are the best version of you that you possibly could be.
Chin up singletons, you do you and advertise that (shout it from the roof tops) because you deserve to go have some fun and no one else will really give a shit trust me! (Here’s a car selfie because I wanted to commemorate my first date with myself) 🤣🤣🤣